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Today, January 28, 2014

by bosssanders on January 28, 2014 with no comments

Outside my window…
Global warming was all the rage for the past decade…and now people are yammering about global cooling.  I think both are natural and it goes back and forth… but, in the meantime… it’s TOO cold outside thankyouverymuch.

I am thinking…
It’s perfectly fine to want something better, to be better.  It becomes not okay when we begin to use and hurt people to get there.  Sometimes, we hurt more than we help…even when we had good intentions.

I am thankful…
41.  For communication.  Real truth, spoken with love.
42.  True friendships.  The kind that make you smile and have your back.
43.  That my oldest daughter has some amazing little people in her life that she calls friends (and I happen to really like, too!)
44.  That I’m a grown up…
45.  For unfrozen unbusted pipes… I’ve seen so many people dealing with crazy stuff during this weather…
46.  For a warm home and a soft bed.
47.  For the funny things that my kids say…like AJ’s new phrase, “Poopty tooty” – I have no idea exactly what it means but he says it and his face plus voice just makes it hysterical.
48.  For yummy coffee and a “vat of brownies”
49.  For friends who bring goodies when weeks seem to not let up
50.  For listening ears and wise advice

In the kitchen…

Sourdough bread….rising….
And, chicken pot pie for supper…

I am reading…

JUST FINISHED:

On the back cover of The Simplified Guide: Paul’s Letters to the Churches by David Hazelton:

“Paul’s letters were written for “all those everywhere who call on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Corinthians 1:2).  He wrote to regular Christians, like you and me, about the daily challenges we confront in our walk with Christ.  Paul is very clear – the Gospel message of salvation is simple, straightforward, and available to all who come in faith.”

My favorite thing about this book is that Hazelton takes Paul’s letters and breaks them down into categories like: sexual purity, daily ups and downs, how we act, our relationships, etc.  He goes through and lays out what the teachings of Paul has for us WITH scripture notated (which is important!).  I really appreciate that it’s written in a no-nonsense-pick-up-and-go way and the topics don’t have to be read in order.

This book is perfect for folks who can’t dedicate a couple of hours in one sitting to thoroughly meditate on scripture (or just feel overwhelmed at thinking about it) and could use a super easy way to get started at looking at what Paul’s letters and teachings say about [insert topic here].

You can find it … HERE.

We/I am learning…

*I* am learning about using yoga to help with back pain using these videos:

In Arthritis Rx, Stephanie Culen leads three levels of workouts based on yoga and Pilates designed by Vijay Vad, MD.  The beginners level helps with flexibility, the intermediate level helps build strength, and the advanced level improves endurance.  While I may be considered “young” still, it’s been a helpful set to learn some stretches for problem areas where my stress tends to “collect” and cause issues.

Then, there’s the Yoga to the Rescue series… MY FAVORITE!  I had been to the doctor and complained about a lower back pain that I could NOT get rid of.  Peppermint oil, lots of ibuprofen, stretching, resting, cold packs, warm packs, massage…NOTHING.  It was enough pain that anything beyond lying down hurt…which, with 4 little kids was NOT an issue.  I popped this dvd in and within moments… I had relief!  With a few simple stretches and an exercise to help move my hips to their correct alignment, the pain subsided and has STAYED gone.  Now, I do the stretches as I think of them (the hip alignment is unnoticeable to others so you can even do it in line at the grocery!) and they’ve helped a ton!

Stress tends to collect in my body in my neck and shoulders, as well and there is also a neck and shoulders dvd in this series that is great!  I know SO many people with hurting backs, necks and shoulders due to all sorts of things (stress, playing with our kiddos, computer use, discs, etc) and this dvd set is incredibly brilliant.  Just make sure you order BOTH the back and neck/shoulders dvds!

Around the house…

Remember back when I posted that one of my next projects was to do a photo collage in my living room?  Well… it’s finished.  I’m pretty happy with it, I do believe…

A favorite quote…

One of my favorite things…

These ink pens for the many notes I take:

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Go Science! (Ben Roy)

by bosssanders on October 8, 2013 with no comments

Science is, hands-down, one my family and my favorite subjects.  Learning about why and how things work has always inspired creativity and awe inside of me and it’s the very thing I hope to instill in my children.  While many people would argue that they can disprove a Creator with science, I have always found that science simply draws me nearer to Him.

In Ben Roy’s Go Science DVD series, he not only teaches science basics, but he also points it all back to God in every lesson.  He brings his charm, knowledge, and fun in each DVD lesson, providing for a fun and encouraging learning environment.

Pros

- Great for homeschooling or as supplemental learning.
- Hands-on activities can be easily integrated in.
- Each “Volume” is comprised of many lessons, and each individual lesson is short and to the point.
- Lessons point back to our Creator.
- Lessons are fun and easily capture children’s attention.
- Great for a large range of ages (4-12!)

Cons
- The only “negative” I can think of is the price – $79.95 on the Go Science site, BUT then I found it HERE for only 47.95 (for a set of 6!  That’s less than $8 each!)!!

It isn’t very often that you can find products that do a great job of explaining science concepts, are entertaining, AND point back to our Creator.  So, here you go!

What are you waiting for?  Go HERE and get yours today at this amazing LOW price!  (You can try them individually, too!)

*I received this set from the company for review purposes.  However, all thoughts and opinions expressed are completely and honestly mine!

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GIVEAWAY!!! – Wise Words For Moms and Reaching The Heart Of Your Child

by bosssanders on September 26, 2013 with 22 comments

I am SUPER excited about this giveaway!!

As most of you know, Wise Words For Moms and Reaching The Heart Of Your Child are two of my favorite resources (see HERE and HERE).

WELL, Ginger has graciously agreed to do a giveaway for these on www.bosssanders.com!  How fun!!

For those of you not familiar with these great resources, let me catch you up:

Wise Words for Moms (and dads!) by Ginger Plowman.  I really really like her teaching on parenting and disciplining kids.  Her flip-book is GREAT for a quick-glance on how to get to the heart of issues.  She lists out different topics (whining, disobeying, etc) and then gives heart-probing questions, scripture to explore with your kiddos on why it’s something we don’t do and then examples to help build them back up.  It’s easy to treat the surface issue, but this is great for tackling the heart issue by using motivation rather than fear of punishment.

In her audio cd set, Reaching The Heart Of Your Child, Ginger Plowman takes the Wise Words For Moms booklet and really breaks it down.  She gives GREAT insight on how to effectively teach your children from the core, not just teaching them not to (insert thing here).  For example, she teaches us how to teach our kids about KINDNESS or RESPECT… not just “don’t hit,” “don’t kick,” don’t throw a marshmallow at Lucy’s head,” etc.  If we simply focus on the outward behaviors, our very creative children will consistently come up with new ones.  However, if we arm them with deep lessons and scripture, they will eventually be able to catch themselves in the act and be able to stop themselves AND take these lessons into adulthood.  Ginger takes time to explain WHY we must speak to our kids’ hearts instead of simply using physical consequences (time-outs/ins, taking toys away, swats) alone.

Ready For The Details?

This giveaway is for one gift set of a Wise Words For Mom flip book and Reaching The Heart Of Your Child CD set.

Deadline: October 3, 2013 NOON CST

Open to all US Residents, Age 18+

How to enter:

1.  Leave a comment on this post.
2.  For a second entry, you may “like” bosssanders on Facebook (go here) and then comment back, letting me know you did so.
3.  For a THIRD entry, copy and paste this onto your personal FB wall (and come back here with the link to your FB page)!:  “Check out bosssanders.com for an awesome parenting giveaway!  I hope I win!  http://www.bosssanders.com/2013/09/26/giveaway-wise-…s-for-moms-and  ”

READY?  SET… GO!!!

—– GIVEAWAY ENDED!  Congratulations Charlene Bish!—-

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For Today, Tuesday, September 24, 2013

by bosssanders on September 24, 2013 with no comments

Outside my window…

Fall is here!

I am thinking…

Adoption, in all of it’s BEAUTY… has hard stuff, too.  I mean, that’s how we got here in the first place, right?  Unimaginable loss.  Broken hearts.  So much pain.  It’s so easy to focus on the beautiful side; it’s the side we want to soak up.  I’ve been thinking lately about our little boy and the HURT.  Physically, emotionally, spiritually…all of it.  I can’t imagine watching people who traveled with your parents coming back… but not with your parents.  And you wait.  Day in and day out.  I wonder if he thinks we left him, too.  And, my heart hurts for him.  I feel so inadequate, like I’m facing this huge giant.  How on earth can I heal these deep wounds of this precious little boy? I think to myself.

Then, today, as I’m reading to the girls about a little girl named Sarah Whitcher, God speaks to me through the story.  This couple loses their little girl in the wilderness (back in the pioneer days when there were no dog teams and helicopters and phones and amber alerts).  And, the father keeps saying: The Lord is with us.  I smile, pushing back tears, because I know this message is just as much for me.  He is with us.

It’s not up to me to heal my sweet boy.  In fact, I AM inadequate… But, HE is not!

God won’t give me what HE can’t handle!

I am thankful…

14.  For cool beginnings of fall.
15.  For a momma who listens to my heart and scoops me up with encouragement.
16.  For words of encouragement from friends who have “been there, done that,” reminding me that God is still sovereign and even this doesn’t surprise Him.
17.  For insight into my little boy’s life.

In the Kitchen…

Chicken Pot Pie with homemade crust and all!  YUM!

I am creating…
Pillow-covers!

I am going…
To a meeting…

I am reading…


I just finished Little House on the Freeway by Dr. Tim Kimmel (buy it here).  If you find yourself BUSY BUSY BUSY and SO STRESSED… this is the book for you.  In his book, Dr. Kimmel helps hurried families find the peace they are looking for with some very real and specific advice.  It’s so easy to wish for the days when things were slow and unhurried, and while we can’t blast back in time, we CAN create homes and lives that are peaceful and productive –YES, EVEN TODAY!  We don’t even have to move to an island or give up all technology!  (Hooray for that!)  We have incorporated many of his thoughts and lessons into our lives and enjoy the time we are able to spend with our family and friends and the peace that brings.  Great book!

I am listening…

I am hoping…
To hear good news regarding our little boy’s paperwork soon…still hoping…

I am looking forward to…

My house being organized and finally putting some finishing touches in the rooms!  And, our boy being home!  COME ON ALREADY!

We/I am learning…
This week, the girls will be learning about George Washington!  Our oldest daughter is learning to add larger numbers (2 digits, no carrying) and about King David’s household.  Our younger daughter is practicing counting 14-20 and is learning the same science and history as our eldest.  Our little guy is learning NOT to climb to the top bunk.  :)

Around the house…
I’m considering ideas for our living room (above our couch)…for a photo collage


A favorite quote…

One of my favorite things…

A necklace that my friend, Shannon, gave me for my birthday with “Proverbs 3:5-6 ” carved into the back.  Such a great reminder!

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For Today, Friday, September 20, 2013

by bosssanders on September 20, 2013 with 2 comments

Outside my window…

Wind-chimes tinkle in the rain.

I am thinking…

(So, so true… and hard!)

I am thankful…

1.  A God who loves us so much – more than we can ever imagine.
2.  He loves us so much, He gave up His ONLY Son, to be beaten and killed on a cross for a bunch of people who could never deserve it or appreciate.  I can’t imagine giving up one of my kids like that.  And yet, He did it for me… for you.
3.  That I can go to my God to pray anytime, anywhere.  I don’t have to wait for the yearly sacrifice in the temple.  No pigeons, no goats.  Just me and God.
4.  For my husband, he’s my very own “David” (man after God’s own heart).  So thankful for the ways he’s grown and continues to search out God.
5.  My kids – they are amazing.  All 4 of them.  They make me laugh and smile and man… I have awesome kids!
6.  My family and friends.  From my parents to my in-laws to my aunts/uncles/cousins and friends (family who chose us)… They are a part of our net.  They catch us when we fall and encourage us.  They shout with joy with us in triumphs and battles won.  These people are amazing.
7.  My church and church family (which includes all of my brothers and sisters in Christ)…
8.  My home and all of our “necessities.”  Not everyone has running water out of several faucets, toilets, hoses, washer, etc.  Not everyone has clean water.  Not everyone has warm/cool place to sleep.  Or electricity.  Or food.  We say they’re “necessities”… but really, they’re ALL luxuries.
9.  My past.  My hurts.  They’ve shaped us.  Made us more humble, more understanding, more grace-filled, more merciful, more loving, more honest, more caring… They’ve brought us to where the only place to look was UP… to Him…
10.  For the pitter-patter of little feet, running through the house.
11.  Little crazy-haired babes sneaking into bed with us for cuddles.
12.  For little not-quite-two-year-old boys who say “Yes ma’am” with no prompting.
13.  Tea-time with peppermint tea and chocolate chip cookies with my girls before naptime.

In the Kitchen…

KY Derby Pie…
Chocolate chip cookies…
And plans for chili (with noodles) for supper.

I am creating…
Pillow-covers.  I was trying the “tied” no-sew pillow covers, but turns out the fabric I bought is a little too thick.  So, looks like I’ll be using my not-yet-used-serger (from many birthdays ago… back before I hit my sewing dry-spell… somewhere around the time my hubby left for Iraq and I was pregnant and caring for 2 littles.  It’s not like I’ve been busy or anything!)

Also, a recipe e-book.  Stay tuned!

I am going…
Absolutely nowhere today.  And I love it.  Yay for rest today!

I am reading…

Wise Words for Moms (and dads!) by Ginger Plowman.  I really really like her teaching on parenting and disciplining kids.  Her flip-book (only $3.99!) is GREAT for a quick-glance on how to get to the heart of issues.  She lists out different topics (whining, disobeying, etc) and then gives heart-probing questions, scripture to explore with your kiddos on why it’s something we don’t do and then examples to help build them back up.  It’s easy to treat the surface issue, but this is great for tackling the heart issue!  Plus, in the throes of parenting, when you have supper burning, one baby crying on your hip and two in the middle of a throw-down… it’s easy, consistent, go-to advice and keeps you from simply screaming STOP!  EVERYONE’S IN TIMEOUT!  ME FIRST!  I’m adding it to my Favorite Resources List… every parent/grandparent needs one!


I’ve just started this one, but am super excited to read more!  (buy it here)

I am listening…

In her audio cd set, Reaching The Heart Of Your Child, Ginger Plowman takes the Wise Words For Moms booklet and really breaks it down.  She gives GREAT insight on how to effectively teach your children from the core, not just teaching them not to (insert thing here).  For example, she teaches us how to teach our kids about KINDNESS or RESPECT… not just “don’t hit,” “don’t kick,” don’t throw a marshmallow at Lucy’s head,” etc.  If we simply focus on the outward behaviors, our very creative children will consistently come up with new ones.  However, if we arm them with deep lessons and scripture, they will eventually be able to catch themselves in the act and be able to stop themselves AND take these lessons into adulthood.  Ginger takes time to explain WHY we must speak to our kids’ hearts instead of simply telling them no, swat, and go.  Another FAVORITE RESOURCE!!

This CD by IHOP is GREAT.  It’s one of those that we crank up during difficult times to turn our weeping into dancing!  Click here to listen

I am hoping…
To hear good news regarding our little boy’s paperwork soon…

I am looking forward to…
the weekend!  And being able to spend it with hubby, our kids, and family and friends!

We/I am learning…
The kids just completed their FIRST QUARTER in school!  They both received ALL A’s!  Woohoo!  We are so excited for them!
Currently, they are learning about early pioneers and manners.  Big sister is specifically learning on grouping and adding larger numbers and working within tens and ones places.  She is also learning about King David and King Solomon and practicing being courageous.   Little sister is learning about creation and beginning to count our way towards 100 (we are to 14, now) and beginning grouping.  Little brother seems like he’s wanting to potty train.  Mommy, on the other hand, not so much.

Around the house…
We’ve been in this house for around a year, give or take.  Now that we know it pretty well and have mostly figured out what we need each room to be/do… we’re ready to take a more pro-active stance on decorating.  I’m a cautious decorator when it comes to my own home.  I don’t like junk.  I don’t like lots of excess.  And, because of the size of the space we live in, I’m all about multi-functional (yet cost-effective) items.  Harder to come by.  (Feel free to throw in ideas.)

First up…  Our living room.

The first order of business is I need two sets of shelving or small bookcases of some sort that can hold our homeschool materials that we are actively using at a given time.  But, I want to be able to keep it organized and PRETTY… but oh-so-functional.  The space between the couches isn’t a lot, so I need something awesome.  I’m not sure about how I want to pull this one off.

Also, I’m re-covering the ugly pillows that came with the couch.  U-G-L-Y.

Next, I really wanted to put a photo collage behind our couch… but, I haven’t found any ideas so far that don’t look crazy cluttered or just… ugly.  I love the idea of using different elements to make it look really neat.

Then, I have a few more ideas for a couple of other small touches.  Oh, and the mantle… needs some fall decorations…  All in my head, but not really TOP priority compared to getting our boy home.

A favorite quote…

One of my favorite things…

We are collecting tea cups!

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For Today September 15, 2013

by bosssanders on September 15, 2013 with no comments

Outside my window the air is beginning to crisp for fall.  I love each season change and all of the sweet memories that come with.  I love the chunky sweaters of fall, pumpkin and apple spiced foods and drinks wafting through the air, bonfires with ash floating high as they aspire to be like the bright stars in the night sky.

I am reading The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert by Rosaria Champagne Butterfield

Rosaria Butterfield was a respected advisor and english professor…she was also a lesbian.  It’s her story of how she came to know Christ.  I have so much enjoyed her honesty and realness as she walks her readers through the brokenness and the triumphs.  So often, it feels like homosexuality and Christianity are worlds that can only collide.  We get so busy taking up signs and making demands, that we fail to listen (both sides).  We fail to hear.  And, in doing so, we wage a war that cannot be won.  Jesus didn’t call us to strike sinners down (because we might as well start with ourselves!).  Jesus called us to LOVE them and develop relationships with them and SHOW them them Him.  Rosaria Butterfield fought hard against Christianity – it stood against everything she believed in – until one day, her world came crashing down.  She tells about a sweet Christian couple who simply wanted to get to know her, but in the process showed her Christ – not with signs or pointing fingers, but with love.

Mrs. Butterfield has some amazing insights.  While she doesn’t claim that homosexuality is “right,” she also points out that it’s not the “root” sin (p.30).  (See Ezekial 16:48-50)
I have highlighted my copy with notes that I can apply to my own life and will forever take with me her wisdom on loving others.

Click HERE to go to her site.

I am listening to

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FAVORITE RESOURCES

by bosssanders on September 14, 2013 with 3 comments

These are my FAVORITE resources!  I enjoy many books (MANY), but these are the ones I recommend everyone stocking their shelves with!

MARRIAGE

52 Fantastic Dates For You And Your Mate by Claudia and David Arp – EXCELLENT book, filled with fun date ideas (many of them can be frugal AND expensive, depending on how you choose to embellish.)

PARENTING

The Legacy Path by Brian Haynes – Create a spiritual legacy path for your children.  Great book with SO many easy-to-implement tips AND it’s easy to read!  This is one of those change-your-life books!

Raising A Modern-Day Princess by Pam Farrel and Doreen Hanna – perfect for parents of girls ages 8-15 (also great to begin reading early!)

Child of Wonder: Nurturing Creative and Naturally Curious Children by Ginger Carlson – You have kids?  Great, you need this book.

Words of Wisdom for Moms by Ginger Plowman – A GREAT flip-book of helpful discipline scripture and techniques

Reaching The Heart Of Your Child (Audio CD) by Ginger Plowman

EVERYDAY LIFE

Life Lines by Dave Meyer (Joyce Meyer’s husband) – Great book if you’re looking for some short devotionals to carry you through your day.  Not too preachy, not super in depth.  Short and sweet and lovely!

Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God by Francis Chan – If you ever doubt or wonder how much God truly loves you (I mean, truly…), check this one out.  It’s written so its reader doesn’t need a doctorate in theology or english to understand it and enjoy it.

Radical: Taking Back Your Faith From The American Dream by David Platt – Super good.  A must read.  –Especially if your name is Joel Osteen.  By the way, prepare to be a little uncomfortable as you read this book…but, it’s worth it!

Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of  a Woman’s Soul by John and Stasi Eldredge – You’ll learn more about yourself than you ever knew in this one.

One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp – It’s all about thanksgiving and finding contentment into everyday life.  She doesn’t speak from a perspective of someone who has all of the riches, but of someone easily related to… someone who has had their share of heartache.  And even still, she’s found the secret we’ve all been searching for…

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend – Teaches you how to create HEALTHY boundaries (and what those specifically look like) in your life.  Whether it’s your gossiping aunt Mable or creepy cousin Beck or manipulative in-law, this book tells you how to create boundaries.  GOOD STUFF.

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NEW FIND OF THE WEEK: EcoJarz – Review and GIVEAWAY!!

by bosssanders on September 12, 2013 with 115 comments

Have you ever wondered what you could do with all of your spaghetti and peanut butter jars?

Or, had you wondered what kind of safe drinking cup you could take with you on the go that was as safe on your pocket book as it was on your body and the earth?

I have found the perfect fit…literally!!

Meet EcoJarz!

EcoJarz has made two types of lids for your drinks… silicone or stainless steel in both regular or large-mouth sizes (meaning it should fit most of your jars!).  These lids are super special: they don’t contain bpa, phthalates, or leach chemicals!!  Not only are they safe for YOU, but they are great for the environment and your pocket-book by allowing you to re-use all of your peanut butter, jam, and spaghetti jars!

Handy, right?

The lids are perfect for drinking your smoothies, tea, water, etc on the go as they keep your drink from splashing out.

And, for those of us who LOVE smoothies, they’ve created stainless steel smoothie straws (as well as regular straws for thinner drinks).

The VERY BEST PART is that  EcoJarz sent me extras to share!!

Are you ready for a GIVEAWAY?

We are giving away TWO sets (so, there will be TWO winners) of :

-TWO large mouth stainless lids
- ONE smoothie straw
-ONE regular straw
-One straw cleaner

HOW TO ENTER:

To enter, simply leave a comment.

For an extra entry, share THIS link and the following on your facebook account (be sure to come back here and let me know you did this so I can count it for you!):  “Check out this great giveaway over at bosssanders.com!  It made my day!”   (NOTE: Be sure to copy the message AND share the link to this post or it won’t count!)

For a third entry, make sure you “like” Bosssanders.com on facebook!  (Again, come back and let me know in comments that you did this!)

For a FOURTH entry, you can like EcoJarz on facebook (HERE)!  (And, let me know you did so in the comments)

GIVEAWAY ENDS: SEPTEMBER 19, 2013 AT NOON CST!

*Disclaimer:  The company sent me products for review.  As always, all opinions are solely and honestly MINE.

UPDATE!!!  —- GIVEAWAY ENDED!—–

WINNERS:

joseph gersch

Thursday, 19 September, 2013 at 2:30  |

what a brilliant idea for use of a jar

and…

Amanda Peek

Sunday, 15 September, 2013 at 17:00  |

Okay, I did all four steps(feel free to double check me ;) )

I think this would be super neat!

WINNERS… Please check your email and get back to me by Monday evening!  Thank you!!

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Mommy’s Heart Went POP! – A Review

by bosssanders on May 23, 2013 with no comments

Mommy’s Heart Went POP! is a sweet children’s book by Christina Kyllonen and Peter Greer.  Beautifully illustrated, it tells the story of a mother who waits, and waits, and waits for her child to come home to her through international adoption (although, many of the same sentiments could be applied to domestic adoption as well).

In a very simple text and format, the authors tell the story of a baby (referred to as “you”) who is found by a kind woman and carried inside.  It depicts another story simultaneously going on across the globe… a family who began waiting and loving a child growing in mommy’s heart.  As the mommy does daily activities with her children (brushing hair, fixing boo-boos, etc), she wonders who is taking care of “your” boo-boos (the child’s) and her heart keeps getting bigger and bigger.  The story goes on as she waits, plans, and dreams for this child…all the while her heart keeps getting bigger and bigger.  The story ends with the mommy and child being united and going home together.

This sweet and simple story of emotion, hope, and love resonates in all adoptive parent’s hearts, and holds true regardless of the age of the child you are adopting.

Our “little one” no longer needs a crib or diapers, and yet I think he’ll enjoy this story as I did.  It explains part of the journey of “how you got here” and is age appropriate for young children.

I recommend this book to anyone adopting or anyone who knows someone that is adopting (for your own kids to help explain adoption!)

See a sneak-peak here!

You can buy it here.

**This book was sent to me in exchange for a review.  As always, all thoughts are completely mine!!

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Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson (book review)

by bosssanders on March 5, 2013 with no comments

Raising kids isn’t easy.

It was never meant to be.

Hollywood paints this great picture of a mom who has 3 kids under 5 in tow and still manages to dress in the latest fashions, shop with perfectly behaved children, have dinner on the table at 5PM, plays pretend, reads bedtime stories, and then heads to the kitchen table to clean up so she can sew a couple of handmade costumes all before making sweet love to her husband for the 80th night in a row.  (And then wakes up the next day with perfect makeup and flawless skin to be awesome again.)

I’ll be the first to admit that I somehow missed out on the radiant supermom cape given out with your firstborn.  Most days, my house looks like a tornado went through at least one room…if not the whole house.  There are days when “me time” looks like being able to shave my legs or pluck my eyebrows (I know, FUN!  EXCITING!).  Motherhood is beautiful and amazing, but let’s face it…sometimes it can feel like the most lonely, hard, and unappreciated calling we’ve ever known.

The thing is, though, we aren’t EXPECTED to be able to do this all on our own.  The image that Hollywood so often portrays is not only a farce, but it is also not biblical.

In fact, the Bible instructs us to live in community and for younger women to be mentored by older women (Titus 2).  If we follow biblical advice, it actually might soothe our hearts as we lay down insane expectations on each other…and ourselves.

In Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson, these two ladies write about their mentor relationship in a very honest way that every young mother can not only relate to but also learn from.  Each chapter begins with short note from each lady to the other – each letter begins a new topic where the younger Sarah Mae feels like she’s not measuring up or struggling in her quest of motherhood with 3 very young littles.  Then, Sally Clarkson follows up with understanding and encouragement, followed by pages of great tips and lessons learned from each of their motherhood experiences.

Sarah and Sally cover topics such as*:

- Ideals of motherhood (that picture in our minds of what motherhood should look like)

- “The Go It Alone Culture” (where we have this big idea that we should be able to do everything on our own)

- Parenting formulas (and how to sift through parenting how-to books and not feel like a complete failure)

-The beast of housework

and TONS more.

And, if I’m being honest here…

I don’t own a supermom cape.  I’ve done the whole beat myself up game for not living up to what a mom should do in a day.  I’ve played that game and can I just say…it stinks?  It’s no fun!  I have 3 littles under 5 and we are pursuing a 4th little guy through adoption and the thing I’ve learned so far is that 99% of the things we stress over…don’t matter.

I thought I’d be this mom who put great meals on the table each night with homemade bread and dessert from scratch.  I pictured my hair styled, lipgloss, and a cute dress from the Limited.  I imagined myself as a mom who NEVER raised her voice, who homeschooled, did cloth diapers, ate only organics and never had laundry piles and even my lists would be organized.  Turns out, my life isn’t like that.  And, for the longest time, I beat myself up over it.  I felt like a failure…defeated…desperate.  I saw all of these other moms who seemed to have it all pulled together…until one day, I realized they all struggled with SOMETHING too.

I still have moments where I get frustrated…(like when the toddler throws his bottle in the toilet and dumps his sisters’ stuffed animals in the tub and turns on the water).  And as the sun goes down, I’m ready to go with it.  But, I’ve lessened the demands on myself.  I no longer worry if the laundry doesn’t get folded every day and I’m okay with pajama pants and a tshirt if I’m staying in – because then I can better enjoy peanut butter fingers hugging my legs or snotty kisses.  I’m okay with a little dust, disposable diapers, and the occasional frozen pizza.  I’m okay needing two months to read a novel “for fun” and letting my sewing machine collect dust.

And that’s why I really like this book

Maybe you are desperate…at your breaking point.  Or, maybe you could just use some wise council to lift your spirit and guide you because you just don’t feel like you are as happy as you could be or you find yourself frustrated or yelling a little too often.  Or, maybe your just lonely in this motherhood journey…

Either way… if you are a mom, this book is for you.

*Topics listed above are paraphrased by me. These are not the actual chapter titles.
DISCLAIMER: The book I read was sent to me to be reviewed. All thoughts and opinions are mine, however.

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