by bosssanders on September 16, 2011 with 2 comments

For weeks before the deployment began, I pored over tips and forums written by seasoned military wives.  I had questions and I even had question about questions I didn’t even know I had yet.  I wanted to know it all.  I wanted to be as prepared as I could possibly be.

One of the recurring themes in the deployment-ready advice was:  Stay busy.  Do new things.  Go back to school (or get another job).

At first, I scoffed.  Who are these people?  Do they even HAVE children?  If they were getting second jobs and all going back to school, how were they taking care of their kids and dropping them off at soccer and gymnastics and watching plays?

But then, I found out that during the deployment, I would be eligible for a special grant to allow me to go back to school for a couple of semesters.  And, from there…my brain just started spinning.  I thought about how many credit hours I already had and how nice it’d be to finally have them rolled up into some sort of degree – something to show for the hard work I’d already done.  I thought about how much my family would would like that piece of paper.  I thought about how much it would make me more “well-rounded.”  You know, just something else to put under my belt. Also, this would definitely keep me busy…just like they advised.

I enjoy learning (even in a school format), so I jumped into the sign-up process headfirst.  Within a couple of weeks, I was not only enrolled in school and classes, but I had all of my financial aid and transfer transcripts in line and ready to go.

However, I forgot something major.  I forgot to prioritize.

Oh, I prioritized homework and social events.  I made schedules, trying to fit in being a mom of two, their activities, their schooling, and my own lessons and homework.  I even prayed that God would somehow make room in my day for the homework to get finished (and He didn’t disappoint).

But, I forgot to REALLY prioritize.

You see, I wanted to stay busy.  I was offered a military grant for spouses that could only be used in a certain window of time (NOW) and I was told I was crazy not to take it.  I wanted to prove myself.  But, I didn’t step back to see how it lined up with the things on my priority list:  God, husband, children, family, ministry, friends, work, money.  Actually, to be honest, I don’t think it even belonged on the list at all (I wasn’t planning on using the degree in the near future.)

The choice to go back to school at this time in my life wasn’t a good one.  And, had I looked at my priority list beforehand, I would’ve realized that.  Sometimes, we get swayed by what others think is a good idea, or what seems to make sense for everyone else and forget to look at our priorities and God’s will in our life.  Sometimes we get so caught up in the hustle and bustle, that we forget where we’re even going.

So, my questions to you are these:

Looking at the way you live your day to day life, what are your priorities NOW?

What do you want them to be?

What will you do to get them from where they currently are to where you’d like them to be?

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  • Mindy

    Wow!! This is so true. My priorities have been so out of order since the deployment began. I thought I had it all figured out! Boy was I wrong. For starters on my changes I plan to put God back where He belongs, FIRST!! My son of course is second. Deployed hubby third, then my health, my son’s education, my work, and the list trickles from there to hopefully have my “wants” at the very end after the “needs” of my family and myself :) . I’m sure by the time I have it all figured out my hubby will be coming home and we’ll start over together!

  • Mindy

    PART II:
    1. Quiet time and a little thought. Making a conscious effort to slow down life for a moment, just to think and reflect.

    2. Quickly! It seems with the hustle and bustle of everyday life, others around me influence my priorities more then I should allow. Just because it’s easier at the time.

    3. I need to slow down. Separate work from life and leave work AT WORK! I need to realize each morning the priorities that need to be tended too, get those done and then allow time for wants. Then I won’t dread/postpone the priorities afterward because, well, I just don’t want to do them then.

    4. To help Martha get her priorities straight and realize what is actually needed from what she thinks is needed.

    5. Mary is very attentive and willing to listen to Jesus, knowing that he requires nothing else but her attention.
    Martha has confused human wants and desires from what Jesus requires. She feels that providing gifts, order and business is what she needs to do to be right in His eyes when He only requires her to listen and follow him.

    6. Martha was serving more as a show of what she could accomplish instead of what Jesus wanted her to do, to slow down and put Him first.

    7. NO. Love is unconditional from Jesus. Those who follow him first, above all life’s choirs, will reap more reward then those who simply try to impress him by doing things or getting things done before Him.

    8. Jesus should always be FIRST. All other things will be taken care of. All cares and worries should be give to Him. He can take all the cares and worries away and all things will be done as He has planned for us. Even though this is many times much harder to do then to type!

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