On Circular Paths
“Walk a mile in my shoes
just walk a mile in my shoes
Before you abuse, criticize and accuse
Then walk a mile in my shoes”
-by Joe South (made famous by Elvis Presley)
I’ve never pretended to be the only one hurting – the only one going through a tough situation, or even one like this, but for someone to tell me they’ve BEEN in my exact shoes before…that’s nuts.
But, only because you haven’t even seen my shoes, and you don’t know the path I walk.
You have an idea, but just because you know I may be wearing flats – you don’t know the condition they’re in or the terrain I’m trudging through…
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Comments
bronsont
So true, one can empathize, but we each hoe our own row
Red Lotus Mama
Well said! And it is so true. *HUGS*
Miss
If its said in empathy, I can see where it comes from. However, if said with negativity, then they can blow it out there ass.
bosssanders
bronsont – Yep. It’s all different…
RLM – *hugs* and thanks
Miss – I don’t so much mean “with empathy.” I mean the times when people know only a small part of your story and not the ENTIRE thing and believe they can tell you the best or right course of action… The ones that tell you you’re wrong and it doesn’t even matter to them what the entire situation is, because they have already made THEIR decision on what YOU should or should not do. Just because. Kind of like if I told you to wear flip flops and shorts today and I didn’t even bother looking at the weather forecast…I just figured that it would be warm. Because. Just because.
This post was mostly meant about those who claim to KNOW EXACTLY WHERE YOU’VE BEEN but haven’t even heard your story yet. Those who just assume they already know it, and they have already decided what is wrong and right for YOUR situation.
bvh789
People like that just really like to be in control. So really it has very little to do with you. And so very much to do with them. So take it with a whole lot of salt and realize that no matter what your situation was or wasn’t, they’d want to have a say in it and most likely want you to do what you weren’t doing or want to think they had a hand in what you were doing. While in the middle of it, that might not be much of a comfort though. {{{{}}}