I’ve been thinking a lot about packing our things up and moving. I’d prefer Ptown as it’s where I grew up, but seeing as how that’d be a little more of a drive for Steven, that’s probably not going to happen. The other option is CollegeTown. Regardless, the nagging desire to have people my age around me was drowning out almost all of my reasonable thoughts. Thing is, I’ve been feeling awfully lonely. I want friends my own age who live close enough that I can visit with frequently and not just when one of them gets hitched or has a kid. And, it’d be especially great if Lorelei could have some playdates thrown in as well. But, really. Do you know what most 22 year olds are doing? In my head, it sounds great to go to CollegeTown and be able to go have drinks with friends, but most likely the vast amount of those friends would be at a totally different (partying) stage in their life. Realistically, I’m sure that’s not what I REALLY want. Do I? (No.)
I’m just a little stir-crazy is all. Lorelei and Steven make great company, but sometimes, a girl just needs to get away. By herself. And, showers don’t count, sweetie. They really don’t. Problem is, we basically live in a small retirement town. Don’t get me wrong, this place is peaceful as all get out and absolutely beautiful with basically no crime rate BUT sometimes it gets a little too quiet. And, as much as I love my neighbors, all but one set could be my grandparents. Which is awesome…until it comes time to socializing. With. People. Our. Own. Age. And, then it gets tricky. I’m all for throwing parties and I totally respect and enjoy people of all ages, but methinks inviting neighbors over for a cocktail party could likely end with false teeth in my Bloody Mary, or something even more crazy and slightly mind-scarring.
Hell, I dunno. Maybe I shouldn’t knock it before I try it, eh? Could at the very least make for some great blog-fodder.
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July 25th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
hi ash ~ understand. how about the folks who go to your church? any couples/families around your age? good luck, kathleen
July 25th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
It’s tough enough being a mom at home with a young child, but the isolation from others your age must make it that much harder.
Not that I’m in the same boat as you (I’m, ahem, more than a little older) but when we first moved into this area after we had baby#1, there were NO kids on our street, or in any neighbouring streets; and our immediate neighbours were either retirees or had kids off to university. We were wondering if it would get better.
And it did, once the boy started preschool, other kids started coming out of the woodwork. And with them the parents. As Lorelei gets a little older, you may start finding at least other parents with similar interests, even if not your exact age.
False teeth in your bloody Mary - snort! But you never know, some seniors are the biggest partyers of all…
July 25th, 2008 at 7:20 pm
When my kids were very young we lived in a small town. To do anything, go anywhere it was a 1/2 hour drive. I really do know how you feel. Sometimes it’s nice to just have another grown up around to talk to that is NOT hubs.
July 25th, 2008 at 8:21 pm
I can see why you have the itch to move. It really is hard being isolated as a mom from….heck, people! Even after living here for nearly 2 years in a fairly big city, I’ve made little progress in making friends.
Wanna move into my neck of the woods? I would totally hang with you!
July 25th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
come hang out with me. i’m nearing the walker and denture age…but i think i’m still fun…as fun as an almost 40 year old can be…:)
xoxo
July 25th, 2008 at 10:44 pm
Thinks you should move towards South Carolina, whichever direction that would be for you!
<3 you girlyface
July 25th, 2008 at 10:58 pm
I need more friends my age too… come hang out with me!
July 25th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
I get a twitch up my butt to want to move every once in a while, then I realize how much crap we have, and change my mind.
And yeah, the friend thing is necessary, but college kids ain’t gonna cut it now.
July 25th, 2008 at 11:05 pm
Y’know, Pittsburgh is pretty freakin’ awesome, but would totally be better if you were to move to town. Sure it’s filled with old fogeys, but there are some of us youngsters, too. Just sayin’!
July 26th, 2008 at 12:55 am
Yea, I remember you once said that you found spray park for the little one - an HOUR away and I felt sorry for you because we have two in walking distance.
That said, even suburbia gets really, really tiring sometimes - I call it suburban hell where I live because it’s all these perfect families trying to keep up with the Joneses with their designer shoulder bags and minivans and I come with nothing and feel like I have nothing in common. It’s isolating in it’s own right.
I think “the grass is greener” applies to a whole load of us. But I DEFINITELY think that you and Steven should seriously sit down and look at some alternatives. Loneliness sucks
July 28th, 2008 at 7:34 am
Throw a party and invite the retirement folks..but tell them to invite their kids.. maybe you can connect with their family..
It really must suck though, I would go stir crazy without my friends.. Hugs to you Ash.